All leadership is influence.
Stanford Psychologist Carol Dweck noticed the difference between a "fixed mindset" and a "growth mindset". Now people may vary in their innate abilities and potential, but which of these mindsets they choose can have a huge impact.
People with a fixed mindset assume their capabilities are already set. They therefore place a limit on themselves and will miss opportunities.
Those with a growth mindset recognise that application and experience enables them to achieve more in life. And so they usually do!
The "good" things included receiving some great presents, opening his own bank account with £1000 contribution from his grandparents, having a friend over to stay, playing football and on the X-box, and on Sunday, going go-karting and visiting friends. Oh, and his favourite team (Liverpool) beat Manchester United!
Reminder 1: Don't be too quick to judge and criticise others.
Especially when I need to clean up my own act! As we were all rushing to get out the door, Jane said she would need to drive Matthew to school (normally a 5 minute walk from our house). I started telling her that if they'd gotten up 5 minutes earlier, that wouldn't have been necessary. I missed my train by 20 seconds, so if I'd gotten up 30 seconds earlier ...
Reminder 2. Sometimes we only really learn from the pain, not just the warning of it.